If you’re reading this, odds are you’re having a problem with your college roommate. We’re sorry — that totally blows and is probably ruining your whole week if not your day. When schools so often put basically anonymous people together to share one small space, it obviously breeds conflict. Remember, you’re not alone and roommate fights are far more common that roommate BFFs. Here are a few tips that should help you resolve any current conflicts or perhaps prevent them in the future.
Lay Down Some Rules
When you and your roommate first start living together, set up some mutual ground rules you both agree to follow. Talk about when you want lights out to be, how many people can be over at the same time, if there are overnight guests allowed, etc. All of these things are potentially major sources of conflict because they all can affect the overall experience of the room. If both of you are clear on what the other needs from the space, in the beginning, you’ll avoid a large number of potential conflicts down the road.
Your RA is Your Friend
Your resident advisor is there to do just that — advise. If you’re having an issue with your roommate right off the bat, go and see your RA as soon as possible. Odds are they’re trained in a little bit of conflict management, so they should be able to give you some good advice on how to approach any early fights. Also, they can serve as a safe listening ear should you need to vent.
All in the Family
If you’re having an issue with the person you share a small space with, don’t invite other people into the conflict. Trust us, you’ll be sorry. Odds are you share some mutual friends, but however satisfying it may be to vent to those friends about how horrible your roommate is, it’s not worth it in the long run. If it gets back to your roommate it could turn a kind of bad situation into a nuclear feud, and that is exactly what you don’t want going into finals.
It is not worth keeping a room that is miserable. If your pride is telling you to hold out until the other person moves, all you’re doing is making yourself miserable for a tiny shared bedroom. It isn’t worth it. Bad living situations can affect your mental health, your physical health, and your grades. Do not extend one because you want to “win” or be proven right in the eyes of your peers. If you have a bad college roommate and it doesn’t look like it’s going work out between you two, move. If all you’ve wanted to do is go to Tufts University your whole life, don’t let one bad relationship get in the way of you doing well there. If you can’t handle a bad roommate, it might be time to start looking into Maryville’s online marketing MBA. That’s something you can do from home.